10 Things I learned Before Turning 20



1. Cherish every moment with your family.

As someone that moved away from their family, every time I see them I get so emotional.  I think its because I’m finally grown enough to realize every second with the people I love means so much. Life is short. Don’t take it for granted… Including the ones you love.

2. You may not know what you wanna do in life, and that’s okay.

Sometimes life doesn’t go as planned. It changes everyday and so does your mind. You may go to college or get a job to do something and realize it’s not for you. That’s F I N E. Things work out in time.

3. Don’t rush your life.

I got engaged when I was 19. Some people think that’s really young, I did too when it first happened. Now I love it and I love calling Ashy my fiancé. But, we know we don’t have to rush anything. So were waiting until were 21. Same goes for you, not everything has to be done ina time frame just because everyone else does. Don’t rush your life, enjoy it.

4. Don’t be afraid to try new things.

I can’t stress this enough. You have to try new things to find out what you do and don’t like.. Right?! DO the things you wouldn’t dream of. DO the things you haven’t heard of. Those are the things you’ll remember down the line.

5. Stand up for yourself.

Another one to pin. Don’t ever let people run all over you. You’ll never know your worth and you’ll never have a happy relationship if you don’t show them how much respect you have for yourself.

6. You will talk to people you graduated with… Especially the ones that matter.

I know you’ve heard time and time again that you won’t talk to anyone from high school, but it’s not true. You will! Especially if you put an effort into talking to them! Your friends will be there for you in such a different way when you graduate. For your new job, or to help through college or when you get engaged or have kids!

7. You don’t always have to have better than someone else.

This is something you see a lot of in high school. But even more so after. People always have to one-up you. Whether it be clothes or houses, or your wedding day or in general. It’s okay though! No one will ever be you and you can never be someone else. So don’t try!

8. The people you surround yourself with is the type of person you become.

This is such a common thing. Its so true though… If you surround yourself with negativity in life, that’s exactly what you’ll become. Negative. But if you surround yourself with positivity and happiness, that’s what you’ll be and that will be how you look on life. People inspire you, or they drain you- pick them wisely.

9. You don’t have to find your soulmate just yet.

I was fortunate enough to go to school with the person I wanna send the rest of my life and fall in love with him while doing so. But a lot of people don’t. That’s nothing to be ashamed or scared of! People always find the person you’re destined to be with, whether it be at 20 years old or 40 years old. If you feel discouraged, the person that’s worth it.. takes time to find.

10. Don’t be afraid to branch away from the ones you love.

This one is a doozy because it’s never easy to move or leave the ones you love. But, I must say.. I loved living at home, but I think you just know when it’s time to grow and leave. I moved 1,000 miles away from home with the person I love. At first, (even till this day) I got upset a lot and couldn’t get over not seeing my mom, dad and nieces and nephew… But it was good to grow up and start my life. And I can’t tell you how many times my family have told me they were proud of me. It’s an amazing feeling to be your own person and move out and try to be independent. You may not make it, you may fail.. But, honestly just to know the feeling is good enough.


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